Guest Blogger Andi Bond: “3 Important Lessons about Relationships and your Spirit”

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I’m honored to share my first-ever guest article by Andi Bond. Andi is spiritual healer and the owner of “Inspired Insight.” See her full bio below. 

I’m running a series of articles from colleagues, coaches and friends who specialize in the topic of masculine and feminine energy and relationships. We will be joining together for an exclusive Facebook live event “The Raw Truth About Relationships: The Dance Between Masculine and Feminine” on Friday, October 20 at 8 p.m. central. Comment below or message me on Facebook to receive your invite! 

The four of us all come from different backgrounds and areas of expertise, and the evening is sure to be as entertaining as it is educational! We’re offering this blog series as a way to get to know each of us and as a sneak peek into what each of will be sharing during the live event. 


3 Important Lessons about Relationships and your Spirit”
By Andi Bond 

I have some thoughts on the nature of relationships and would like to share something that was one of the biggest breakthroughs I have ever experienced. I have seen so many people struggling with this dynamic lately and it’s something that is potentially life changing. This may be a bit lengthy, but bear with me…. trust me, it’s worth it.

There are 3 very important lessons I have learned.

Here is what I experienced:

A couple of years ago, I was experiencing tremendous fear and anxiety as the result of an incredible connection. This sounds strange, but I became so afraid that I was finding love only to inevitably lose it. The feeling of stress was palpable and overwhelming. It affected me physically.

Lesson #1 – The Subconscious Effect of Stories we tell Ourselves

I have been on a spiritual path for some time and have practiced meditation for years now. As a result, I was able to quickly realize that my feelings weren’t necessarily about the situation at hand… there was some deeper pattern involved. I asked to be shown the pattern, and it was like looking at a movie in fast forward. I realized that in my past when I had an important man in my life and then lost them through death, a breakup, or divorce, a period of darkness followed. My entire being was operating as if this story were true, that if I found love and lost it, darkness would follow. I was responding subconsciously to a belief that wasn’t true. It was incredible – the level of panic I experienced in my body was intense. However, as soon as I was able to see that this “story” I had been believing was not true, I was able to shift immediately. A change happened in an instant. I experienced relief at once.

You see, your entire reality can and will shift in an instant the moment you release false beliefs and stories!Andi 2

Lesson #2 – My Heart Belongs to Spirit

Of course, life continues to show us lessons to be learned. Later in the week, I was experiencing fear and anxiety again. However, this time it was different. That night, I attended a mantra and meditation event led by dear friends. At one point, I was laying on the floor with my eyes closed after doing a heart opening exercise. Tears began streaming down my face. Again, like being struck by lightning, I was shown that in the past with each of the men that I had lost, I had attached my heart directly to theirs.

Hold on a minute… aren’t we supposed to give our heart to people? NO!!! I saw what looked like chords of light attached from my heart to theirs. I had become dependent on them for my happiness and wellbeing. I mentally visualized myself “cutting the chords” with each of them and took the time to mentally take responsibility for this unhealthy dynamic. I also mentally apologized to each of them and sent a prayer that they be happy and fulfilled. It was wrong of me to place such a demand upon them. I saw that I was repeating this again with my most recent connection. I very gently severed this chord as well and later apologized to him personally for making him feel in any way that he was responsible for my well-being. What I saw in the moment I did this was this chord of light come into my heart and shoot directly up to God. My heart belongs to the Divine.

You see, I will never again give my heart to another human being – family, friend or partner. This in no way means that I will not share love in my relationships with family, friends or my romantic partner. In fact, it means the exact opposite. I will share my love from a place of fullness and peace rather than expect or need to be fulfilled by them.

Lesson #3 – The Energetic Exchange in Relationships

The relationship dynamic that creates endless opportunities for growth, joy, passion, and love is such that both people are plugged into a source of love that is deeper than themselves. They both draw their individual power from this source and share the overflow between each other.

I had the understanding yesterday while speaking with someone who was experiencing difficulties in her relationship that what commonly happens is that one person will “connect” or “plug-in” to the other person as their source of happiness and power. While both may have felt full, happy with their life, and connected to their spiritual selves in the beginning, the feelings of love are so overwhelming that one or both people see the other person as their source of happiness. They stop doing their spiritual practice, taking care of their individual soul and finding a way to tap into something that charges them fully.

It’s a lot like charging your phone. Plugging into your spiritual practice through prayer, meditation, exercise, reading or doing things that fill your soul is like plugging yourself into a socket of spirit.

Our beautiful world is a source of endless energy, inspiration and power. You are able to fully charge yourself and share your fullness with your partner. However, when one or both views the other as the source of their power, it’s like plugging the phone into your computer to charge it. If the computer is plugged into a socket, this will work for a while, but the power from the computer will still be redirected to charge the phone rather than using the power to fully charge the battery of the computer. If the computer is not plugged in, both devices will eventually be drained.

I have seen this over and over again recently with friends. One person becomes dependent on the other for their energy and power and it inevitably leads to the breakdown of the relationship and draining of both people.

Plug into the source and share the overflow!!!!

✨ ✨ Andi Bond

Andi graduated with honors from the University of Colorado, Boulder – where she studied Engineering and Astrophysics and graduated with a degree in International Marketing and Spanish with a Minor in Business. She holds a Masters Certification in the study of Consciousness, Meditation, Vedic Astrology and Sanskrit from Shruti Institute for Vedic Arts as well as receiving Meditation Instructor training from One World Academy

Throughout her education and spiritual journey, she has been blessed with the opportunity to study under incredible teachers. She has studied under direct disciples of:

  • Maharishi Mahesh Yogi – founder of TM
  • Sri Sri Ravi Shankar – founder of The Art of Living
  • Paramahansa Yogananda – Author of Autobiography of a Yogi
  • Her Holiness Amma Sri Karunamayi

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The journey continues: Costa Rica

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It was an early morning for this lovely lady (my mom) and I considering I had a 6:50 flight and a 2 hour drive to the airport prior. I don’t believe in “goodbyes” only “see you laters.”

Today, I begin another phase in my journey. I’m headed to Costa Rica for two months – ready for more adventure, learning and growing.

On my last flight, I asked myself what I hope to find in Costa Rica. Of course there are things I want to do and see – exploring, surfing, gym time, yoga, writing, days at the beach, learning about a new culture and continuing to serve my Iron Gypsy clients. Sure, it’d be great if I met some interesting people – or maybe the love of my life. Haha!

But as far as major expectations, the truth is — once again — I have no idea why I’m going to Costa Rica.

And that feels like…

Freedom!

Each day, I’m learning about letting go. Being present. Choosing to create harmony in every situation and choosing to see life through the lens of unconditional love.

I could take this same journey anywhere! I’m fortunate that my life path and my intuition has led me to do it in Costa Rica.

I’ve realized is that this journey is not about finding answers or being attached to specific ideas about what it will be. It’s about letting go of the need – the attachment – to a specific outcome.

I do not know why my heart has called me to this place. I do not know what interesting adventures I will have, what amazing people I will meet or what lessons I will learn.

I do know that looking back at where I’ve come from and where I am today, all of the pieces fit together as part of a crazy, one-of-a-kind masterpiece. There is beauty in the twists, turns, bumps and even the pit stops.

This is sure to be another brushstroke, another piece, another gorgeous jewel in the masterpiece I am creating in each moment.

I can embrace each moment — knowing I’m exactly where I’m meant to be.

And so, the Iron Gypsy Journey continues.

Today, I will simply enjoy the act of creating.

I will enjoy the journey.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Forgiveness and Unconditional Love

Today marks the beginning of a new era for the Iron Gypsy blog. 

As you know, it’s been quite some time since my last post. I have been focusing on giving my all to my Iron Gypsy Coaching clients, attending additional courses (including Tony Robbins Business Mastery, Tony Robbins Leadership Academy and Reiki Level I and II certification), continuing with my own spiritual and health journey and growing other social media platforms including the Iron Gypsy YouTube channel.

All the while, I’ve been beating myself up for neglecting my passion project — the Iron Gypsy blog. 

So today, I made a decision. No longer will the fear of imperfection get in the way of progress. No longer will the fear of not being perfect get in the way of sharing the Iron Gypsy mission. No longer will I continue to beat myself up for what I’m NOT doing with the Iron Gypsy blog.

I will focus on WHAT I CAN DO! 

So, from here on out, you will see more stories! Some of the stories will be content that was shared through other social media platforms. Some will be snippets of content that I’m sharing with the Iron Gypsy Tribe (aka my coaching clients). Some will be raw, nearly unedited original content or a melding of content from various sources.

It will be imperfect. But it will be content that I feel passionate about sharing. This will also allow me to continue to reach those not on other social media platforms, while at the same time continue to place emphasis on my current projects and my future (other) passion project — a book! 

To kick things off, I want to share some content originally developed for Instagram that really captures the moment and essence of this decision. 

Next week, I leave for Costa Rica, so stay tuned for that. Additionally, I will be sharing random thoughts that have come up over the last couple of months since my last post. One thing is for certain when it comes to the future of Iron Gypsy — it will be a real, beautifully raw and wild ride!

Stay with me, friends! Love and light to you all! 

xoxo,

Kesley (aka Iron Gypsy) 

“Forgive yourself.”

This was what came to me in meditation this morning when I completed the assignment given to me by my reiki and spiritual teacher.

“Forgive myself for what?”

All the places I should be, other than where I am. All the things I should be doing, other than what I am doing. All the things I didn’t do. All the people I didn’t help. All the things I am not.

I find myself focusing on and beating myself up for all I am “NOT” instead of finding peace in the present and WHAT IS.

Why do I deserve this forgiveness?

We all do. We are all human. We were born to be perfectly imperfect.

If we cannot love and forgive ourselves, how can we find that same forgiveness for others? At our core, we are all the same — HUMAN.

So as I continue to reflect on the topic of unconditional love…this is where I am today.

To love we must forgive. And forgiveness and love starts in YOU.